Holy crud this is tough! Commitment! It sounds so easy and it's really easy to say it, too. "I'm committed." This used to be my favorite lie. I now know what it really means to be committed, and I do not say that lightly.
There's no way I'm going back, either. I know my "why" and I know what it takes. I'm committed to it now. I've won over (insert weakness here). It is now a non-issue.
I get really concerned when I hear people say these things. I get concerned because they've already tossed out the reality that they are human. Because you are human, you have the potential to err.
Never underestimate the human ability to be utterly oblivious or in complete denial. There is justification for all things, right? This doesn't mean that you should avoid trying to commit to something, someone, or to change in general.
The burden to correct behavior is ever more present, especially when you have identified your weaknesses. If you are going to be committed to something, try being committed to being "aware", rather than permitting yourself to flirt with whatever is tantalizing to you.
The reality is, if there was a problem once, you will most likely be tempted by it again. There's one thing I never doubt, and that's my potential to let pride and weakness creep up on me. Next thing you know commitment waivers. This is where the adage, "old habits die hard" has teeth.
To me, commitment is to stay as far away from it as possible, as well as to try and stay as close as I can to something positive. In order to do so, I have to strip the habits that usually precede the frequent error.
I have to change or just understand my perception of what it does for me. I also have to foster progression with whatever or whoever I should stay close to.
Staying away from something isn't always considered avoidance. Sometimes it's actually a very wise thing to do. If you know it's a problem, there's no avoiding that acknowledgement. Understanding that you can't be trusted around that thing is key to learning to live as well as to move beyond it.
What is "it" might you ask? Anything qualifies here, so long as it's a problem where self-control goes out the window. You don't need me to list anything here.
That thing that's been on your mind during this entire blog entry or the one that just popped in your mind a moment ago; yep, those are what need to be worked on most. Those are "it".
When you are aware, commitment naturally tries to follow. Shoot for awareness and being present; see if a few appetites can't be curbed.
For me, I've found awareness in asking myself "why?" Why do I want it? What just happened to make my commitment waiver? What's my payoff? Who do I hurt?
I'm tired of being trapped by my actions, or in some cases, inaction. What about you?