Friday, February 28, 2014

Sagging boobs, gassy, and feeling sexy!

When I was obese I used humor to make my fat not so suffocating to me. In doing so I would say things like: 

  • "At least with a rear as big as mine, when I run my butt flaps so wildly it almost sounds like I'm singing the Star Spangled Banner." 
  • "I'm so fat that when I pass gas you don't even noticed that I've just lost ten pounds." 
  • "I don't run because when I do my boobs hit me in the face and sandbags like that can really do damage!"

It was during that same segment of life I would get really ticked off at "skinny people" when they would complain and whine about needing to lose ten pounds. I think I was bothered by it because for most of my life (ages 12-33ish) I was either highly overweight or obese. 

Now I think I finally understand the need to lose ten pounds for what it is; regardless of any one particular person's weight. It's really about feeling good. 

Feeling good health-wise. Feeling better in how your clothes fit. Feeling less bloated. Feeling less in the way. Feeling socially, physically, and even more sexually desirable. Feeling less concerned and aware of how uncomfortable even your skin can be.

There's no one, two, or even three numbers on the scale that are the tipping point for when this happens. 

Simply put, your weight does not always coincide with the burden of feeling unhealthy, undesirable, or sexy enough.

The burden of feeling good is just as much of a psychological effort as it is a physical one. 

Oftentimes people choose not to exercise because they are sad or depressed. That is a mental health road block, not a physical one. That is when you believe that you are not worth the effort or that the effort won't make a difference.

When in this bad place not only exercise goes out the window, but so do spiritual endeavors, hobbies, and relationships. When this happens you start to also "not feel good".

Feeling desirable (and even sexy) has more to do with your perception of yourself than it does about how you actually look. 

When was the last time you looked in the mirror and actually saw you for who and what you are, rather than what you are not?

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